No, really, it’s totally fine.

My time really is less important than yours.

I’m only looking after your child, after all. Not a big deal or anything, really.

Blowing off another access visit 30 minutes before it’s supposed to start (when your kids are already on their way) because you’ve decided to get your medical dealio done now rather than, say, tomorrow – absolutely a great idea. Or because you’re picking up a friend from another part of town in your non-existent car. Or any of the other totally random sane reasons you concoct give.

Your kids totally won’t notice. In fact, they love hanging out with strangers at the access centre for an hour. With no food, because they’ve come hungry, because you’re supposed to feed them. Definitely something they’ll look forward to for next week too I’m sure.

And since I’m doing this drive for Maria, yes I’ll come much later because one of you has cancelled while the other one can’t get there.. because they, too, have a random medical deal that they seem to ALWAYS BOOK FOR ACCESS DAYS.

I have lots of medical appointments too – lots for me, lots for Maria. Go figure, somehow we manage to book them (and get to them! WOW!) on days that aren’t overlapping access! And you know what happens when they do overlap access? We go to access instead and rebook the medical appointment! Yes, we are more crazy than you, birth parents. Definitely.

That’s why they’ve started the process of TPR today, right?

*EDIT: Yeah. The other parent cancelled at the last minute because their ‘bus broke down’. So I supervised the visit between Maria and her siblings, one of whom brought beautiful flowers (rose of sharon’s) in a special container – one for mom and one for dad. They were so sad they had to take them back to the foster home.  Maria’s sister asked me why the parent couldn’t come just for the last part of the visit if her bus broke down. As in, they understood that there are OTHER BUSES the parent could have taken and in time. I didn’t have an answer.

Child welfare – where we start with broken dreams and work from there! WHEEE!